Dear Editor,
I read Tony Robinson’s Sunday Observer column of May 29, 2016 ‘Women nag, men advise’ and I wish to add my two cents.
Once upon a time it could be said that it is true, but it is my belief that men nowadays have forgotten their roles and they are the reason women nag.
One example of women nagging presented was when a wife was telling her husband to take out the trash, cut the yard, and wash the car as soon as he sat down to relax. In my view, if those need doing, he should not have been relaxing in the first place. That could only be nagging, for me, if those things don’t need doing and I’m being told to do them.
Men nowadays don’t want to tend to the yard, get the car fixed, help with the chores around the house; most are looking for a maid and refuse to realise that they married a working woman so things need to be shared. For me, it’s just a case of realising who you are with and seeing what you need to do.
Why get in before your wife and wait until she gets in to say you are hungry? Why not get in early and prepare a meal so she can get dinner when she gets in? Why see the dirty dishes in the sink and add to it? Why not wash up? Why leave her to pick up the children from school; why not alternate?
Nothing is supposed to be the wife’s responsibility in a marriage; it is a partnership, so a man, a real man, will step up and help without being asked to. And once a marriage is viewed the correct way, and men nowadays start acting like men, then women won’t have to nag.
Men are supposed to breadwinners, providers and defenders of the family; some men nowadays prefer to stand on the corner smoking or drinking, hanging out until late hours with friends everyday then coming home expecting all will be done. Prioritise and be a man. You have a wife now; it’s not you and your friends, it should be you and your wife. You can have friends, but your wife should get the right amount of time and care to make her feel like your wife.
For those women who do nag — whether for greed or just being miserable — if they have a good man, nagging will push him away and, in most cases, it’s into the arms of a woman who realises his good qualities and realises that his current woman is just not appreciative of them.
What’s more, some men do nag, and it’s not just for sex. The lazy ones who don’t want to own up and be a man nag the woman they’re with. So even though the Bible may speak about a nagging woman, if the Bible were to be written some years from now it would have mentioned the new era of ‘man’ as a set who do nag.
Lucien Boswell
lucien.boswell@gmail.com
I read Tony Robinson’s Sunday Observer column of May 29, 2016 ‘Women nag, men advise’ and I wish to add my two cents.
Once upon a time it could be said that it is true, but it is my belief that men nowadays have forgotten their roles and they are the reason women nag.
One example of women nagging presented was when a wife was telling her husband to take out the trash, cut the yard, and wash the car as soon as he sat down to relax. In my view, if those need doing, he should not have been relaxing in the first place. That could only be nagging, for me, if those things don’t need doing and I’m being told to do them.
Men nowadays don’t want to tend to the yard, get the car fixed, help with the chores around the house; most are looking for a maid and refuse to realise that they married a working woman so things need to be shared. For me, it’s just a case of realising who you are with and seeing what you need to do.
Why get in before your wife and wait until she gets in to say you are hungry? Why not get in early and prepare a meal so she can get dinner when she gets in? Why see the dirty dishes in the sink and add to it? Why not wash up? Why leave her to pick up the children from school; why not alternate?
Nothing is supposed to be the wife’s responsibility in a marriage; it is a partnership, so a man, a real man, will step up and help without being asked to. And once a marriage is viewed the correct way, and men nowadays start acting like men, then women won’t have to nag.
Men are supposed to breadwinners, providers and defenders of the family; some men nowadays prefer to stand on the corner smoking or drinking, hanging out until late hours with friends everyday then coming home expecting all will be done. Prioritise and be a man. You have a wife now; it’s not you and your friends, it should be you and your wife. You can have friends, but your wife should get the right amount of time and care to make her feel like your wife.
For those women who do nag — whether for greed or just being miserable — if they have a good man, nagging will push him away and, in most cases, it’s into the arms of a woman who realises his good qualities and realises that his current woman is just not appreciative of them.
What’s more, some men do nag, and it’s not just for sex. The lazy ones who don’t want to own up and be a man nag the woman they’re with. So even though the Bible may speak about a nagging woman, if the Bible were to be written some years from now it would have mentioned the new era of ‘man’ as a set who do nag.
Lucien Boswell
lucien.boswell@gmail.com